Also if she lets you touch her. (worked for me at one many occasions) massage the lower buttock region not on but around her anus with decent pressure. I find when you find the but bones inside those to the anus is best. you may feel a hardened mass there but massage it for about 5-10 min. Also on the lower abdominal region a massage works,about 2 inches above her private region to the belly button with a up and down motion. Do this with whatever liquid you are trying to use on her. Also there was something by a herbalist here (40 Years served) that said hot pack 5 min cold pack 5 min and back and forth on the stomach as a whole. ITs called shock treatment. Ive never done this one but it brought my father relief.