Re: selfish teenagers

My first peice of advice is to put down the wine! It is going to make things way worse. It will never help you fix the problem..and if it continues, you will distroy your family life.

Sounds like you need to get some support. Get yourself to a good therapist, pronto, and start to talk out your problems. Dont have $$ then go to a local church or a YMCA and ask for free resorces. Dont let this linger..you need to deal with it. In the end this will help you and your daughter.

Teenage girls are tricky, they are very emotional and just need love and patience. Why not give that to her. It might make you mad that she doesnt talk to you, or that she has moved...but fighting with her about it wont help. Maybe let her know what you are doing.. for example" I am realizing that i dont have everything figured out right now and I need some help and support for myself"...." I would really like a better relationship with you, I am having a hard time accepting what you are doing now in your life...but I love you anyways"..... then let her know that you will give her some space, but that you would like to see her maybe once every two weeks... you could go to the movies or for coffee, her choice..and that in between those times you would love to talk to her, but can accept that she is taking time for herself.

It might be really hard.. but then you can take the time in between to focus on you..what makes you happy.... and what you can do with this extra time...

I hope this helps..


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