Thank you so much for responding to my message. You are so right - some of the very ones pointing their fingers at me (older women)are tying to hit on this same young man. I can just see myself giving him up because of society's thinking and he winds up with some older woman anyway.
Also, you said I have ANOTHER chance at happiness. I haven't had any chances at happiness, this would be my first one. so thank you very much for your support.