It seems as if you're having a real problem tolerating the die off. And I can relate to not being able to tolerate bad die off as a mother of a 2 and 3 year old. (My 2 year old just woke up from her nap and is calling me now :)) You just cannot cope with being out of it when they need so much constant care.
I can suggest 2 products that claim to not cause die off. Links below. One is for colon cleansing. It is called Colosan. I hear of it having good benefits on the CureZone Forums . And the other is Candex for the candida. Be sure to click on the Acrobat reader or Printer friendly link to read the brochure online. Candex also has a money back guarantee. You can buy Colosan at the site on the link or elsewhere. Candex is at Vitamin Shoppe and www.iherb.com or elsewhere. I cannot vouch for these products as I have not been able to try them as of yet, but plan on it. I'm sure others may have suggestions.