Re: Can't stop playing with yourself, spanking the monkey!!

I think you already know that 'you have a problem'.. and no.. I am not saying you are sexually addicted or whatever.. we dont know that.. But you already know that what your doing (playing with yourself, spanking the monkey daily, etc)is a PROBELM because not YOU HAVE A SECRET FROM YOUR WIFE.. I'm sure she doesn't know anthing about this. Think about the REALITY STARING YOU IN THE FACE.. You have a women and wife who is available to you to 'relieve yourself' or to enjoy her body etc. etc. Bottom line, she may or may not be willing to be sexual at the same frequency as you.. and thats fine.. but the problem is NOT what is going on by masterbating.. but by what is going on in your head. What is it that is 'turning you on so much that sometimes you have to go 'relieve yourself'.. Fantacies about other women? p 0 r n o g r a p h y? Having sex with your wife once or twice a month Vs. Daily 'having sex with yourself' DAILY IS A PROBLEM.

Unless you start to 'bring this out in the open' you will end up finding yourself in a real mess.. with yourself, your wife and your relationsip will deteriorate until you get a divorce. If you were to discuss your 'sexual appetite with your wife.. I wonder what she would say? How would you feel if your wife refused, didn't initiate or 'wasn't interested' in having sex with you except for once or twice a month, but she was playing with yourself, spanking the monkey dialy????? How would you feel? Betrayed? Afraid? perhaps she has lost interest in you? Would you TRUST HER? Again, by bringing this behavior into the open, it can be talked about, dealt with and resolved. If you have lost some interest in your wife, are bored or whatever.. GREAT.. then you can deal with it.. RIGHT NOW, all your doing is building up more secrets, shame and guilt which will evenually destroy your relationship. If you know that there is 'a problem' in loss of interest etc.. then that can easily be dealt with.. BUT NOT by 'acting out' by yourself to relive yourself.. THAT IS NOT A SOLUTION to the underlying problem.. Deal with the underlying problem, and the behaviors will take care of themselves in most cases.