Re: Hi #18246, I've missed you :) n/t

Well, I missed you also, but I found that this effort of mine was, like all the rest of my attempts to share life experiences, an effort that takes too much out of me.

I know better, for I have communicated in a most amazing number of ways, and on many subjects.

And therefore, I know that actual communicating is a lost art, as witnessed on this forum and most any other, excepting my hangout of six years in the Survival Forum where fine men and women gathered and communicated . No baloney or bad language was tolerated for a moment, and as a consequence, that little band of folks is as close as if we had grown up all together in one town and been friends from day one.

You see, I spend as much as three hours on a post, geting it just right, checking the spelling and syntax and try to keep it step by step, which is not easy for a writing, passionate, out there Irishman....especially one who is hyper frustrated because of the total absence of that which is so very important to me.

We get what we ask for sometimes, but often it's just that one gets tired of "dating" (whatever that is) and one day a nice person is there, and while you may have spent a year or two with another woman, you get married in six weeks.

And naturally, when a nice woman who has been treated poorly, is suddenly being treated as she should have been, that woman is going to be more sexual, especially since in my era and age group, just becoming divorced did not automatically mean that you immediately began to seek sex from whatever source.

Far from it.

The woman that pulled me out of that hyper control situation and set about to help me to never be conned again by any woman, had been single for ten years at that time, and it had been five years since she had sex, for as driven as she was (at THAT time I had NO idea that there were women who felt as I did, and could be lady like, yet imaginative beyond measure when "alone"

And after I had learned enough, that woman had the courage and consideration to break off a red hot marriage minded situation because she KNEW that she was messed up and would gradually take advantage of my kindness to get even with what had been done to her.

Strange? Not at all. It happens all the time unless two people are totally aware of it's "easy access" and find a secret word or wink to diffuse when it's about to happen.

That takes a lot of friendship building FIRST.

NOTE: I spent over an hour and a half on a long and poignant post for you but again it's too personal. I am already sorry that I gave so much heart away, EXCEPT that you connected to it and that is perhaps why I stopped here. Who knows?

But I saved the rest of this four pager just in case there is a way to send email through this system.

Let me know.

RegularJoeGuy
But sadly, a romantic in the age of grunge.