"...I understand his need for sexual freedom"!!!!!!!????? Are you out of your mind (no offense!)? Threesomes aren't normal. Obsessive anal sex isn't normal. Oral sex alone isn't normal. You've hooked up with a freak! Where's the circus? If this is what's going on now early in the relationship, by wedding time you two will be into nipple rings, midgets, and internet performances! It's good to be normal...take my word for it...normal is a nice place to be this day and age.