First of all, I am very sorry that you and your mother are having to deal with such horrible hurts. Have you ever gone to church? Do you believe in God?? God is the only one who can help you and your mother to heal from the past,and now. I recomend some really good books as well, starting with Intimate Friendship with God by Joy Dawson, Victory over Darkness, I don't know the author to that one, The bondage Breaker, by Neil T. Anderson, and Healing for Damaged Emotions. Theese are all very good books that can help you to over come the hurts,and the addictions you can find them at any christian bookstore. Please consider seeking the lord, and asking him into your life, it will be the best thing that you ever did, but give it time to experience his love, and the burdens will be lifted. God Loves you girl!! I will pray for you, and your mother.