Re: my mom is out of control and i'm about to lose it too

perhaps she needs to hit bottom before she can come back up.
somtimes this is the only way to help people.

i would say to her that you have been trying to help her in all the ways you know how but for whatever reason its not working.
she may say it is but thats when you point out that is never gets better and is always stressing you out and making you feel depressed because you are so hopeless in this situation.

perhaps her pain is the only way she knows how to connect anymore?
she is an adult and she needs to take care of herself. you are not the mother here.
i would jot down some #s that she can call to talk to someone on how to take it from here on her own. there is a number in the blue pages that is for mental health.
check it out. they can refer her to people and group therapy meetings,etc.

but you cant heal someone who doesnt want to heal themselves. even if they say they want to. they wont until they take the steps on thier own towards that goal.