About people saying women cause their own rapes

Did you read the accusatory response on CureZone, or another site?  If you read it on one of the CZ religious debate forums, I will offer this insight with regard to such judgemental thinking:  someone who believes that another human being "invites" being raped is full of hatred.  Period.  They hate what they are, they hate what they aren't, they hate what they see, they hate what they think, they hate others for their humanity, and they hate God for whatever reason, but they continue to espouse what they twist and warp as "God's Message" to soothe their own inner turmoil without realizing that they're perpetuating their own angst and not, by any stretch of the imagination, following some very simple lessons.  People who respond in such a way to a violent criminal assault against other human beings suffer a complete absence of human empathy and/or compassion.  These people are to be avoided, at all costs, both online and in "Real Life."  They are rabid in their flawed beliefs, and there is no cure for rabies that has gone that far.

One of the saddest reasons that the act of rape is diminished and made light of is becaue of the misguided belief that rape is simply about sex.  It's not.  It's the defining act of objectification, humiliation, and degradation that can be perpetrated upon another human being because it is accomplished via sexual assault.

The reason that many rape victims are dismissed as having "asked for it" is equally sad.  There are men and women, out there, who have accused others of perpetrating this most heinous crime for their own purposes - to pay someone out for dumping them, ignoring them, or even something as mundane as creating drama.  The same happens with people who falsely report child abuse - too many people have made false accusations, and the actual victims are dismissed and the crimes diminished because of previous false accusations.  The courts are clogged with false allegations, and my personal belief is that anyone who is proven to have made a false allegation should compensate the accused, AND the community by way of punitive damages and volunteer work with any agency or facility that actually helps victims of crime.

The only way to manage this type of ignorance is to speak truthfully, without anger, high-pitched emotions, or finger-wagging.  Speak the facts, regardless of whether they're pleasant or not.  Speak the truth, even if the truth isn't personally flattering.  But, don't feed the rapid wingnuts by responding to such outrageous beliefs.  Whether we "like" this fact, or not, wingnuts are "allowed" to maintain any beliefs that they wish to, regardless of whether those beliefs are based upon facts, or upon hatred.  Responding to such stupidity only gives such toxic individuals an excuse to go on ranting and raving, and spreading their warped and twisted interpretations.  Meet that kind of bad behavior with silence and "shunning."  That, dear one, is the core of "turning the other cheek."  Turning our cheeks in the opposite direction of hatred and wilfull ignorance is punishment enough and does not allow for the other cheek to be struck, again.  Walk away from it, without rage, hatred, or anger.  Those people are what they are, and we don't have the power to fix what ails them.

Build your own system of beliefs on what you observe.  Base them upon truths and facts, and NOT upon what others might interpret to fit their own personal agendas.