Re: My Ex-Husband Narcissist is back after 25 YEARS!!!

Thank you LuzMaria, I appreciate the feedback.

This man showing up again really did throw me for a loop. So what I did after posting here was to do more work on this issue again. Which is a good thing, I needed to do this.

I read every book I could find on NPD and searched the internet and read up on all I could.

Meanwhile, he showed up at my work about 9 times. I wasn't there for 7 of those times. I took SoulfulSurvivor's advise and went "no contact" and he finally gave up. And I let him.

So now I plan to read up more on Co-dependency and get rid of the last vestiges of that. I intend to make sure I NEVER get mixed up with one of these again.

Going through this process though, I realized once again how many of these people are around and how they are able to suck me in. I had to go back and look at my entire life and relationships and see my part in it.

I think I get it much better now.

I am also starting to think that my ex-path has a lot of socio- or psychopathic tendencies. He definitely has a sadistic streak in him. I've learned there is some cross-over between these 3 PD's.

One time he dropped me off at the airport when I was 7 months pregnant. Before I got out of the car, he somehow managed to slip a large knife into my carry on luggage without my knowledge. When I placed my bag into the scanner, well, you can imagine the fear and panic I went through when security surrounded me and I was nearly arrested. When I nearly passed out they realized I had no idea I was carrying the weapon and let me go. When I told my ex-path what happened he laughed, a very evil laugh I might add. He truly seemed to think this was funny and for some reason until that moment I thought placing the knife in the bag was somehow an accident. I guess that acknowledging the truth would have been too painful.

So, I had several incidents like this and I have been contemplating telling my kids about some of these incidents. My son knows and understands he is NPD, my daughter knows he's crazy but thinks he is getting better.

Anybody have an opinion on just how much I should enlighten my kids? They are 33 and 31 now. I can see them softening to him since he seems to be mellowing and of course I don't want them to get sucked back in either.

I am so grateful that I got out of there when I did. Alive.