Re: Please help!! I need some relationship advice!

I agree with the poster who said that the two of you need to sit down and talk this out. You need to tell James everything you've written here. Just lay out the facts as they are. Avoid making a direct criticism of him. Tell hin the things that bother you. Then ask him how he thinks that they should be resolved. Let him know that if the relationship is to survive, resolving these problems is necessary.

If he balks at making major changes or promises you that he will pull his weight, then reneges---it will be up to you to decide what to do next.

Would it be acceptable for you to continue living with things as they are? If not, then it would be best to end the relationship and move on.

If you want to save the relationship and he won't make an effort to pull his weight, you could insist on joint counseling. If he says "no" to counseling, then you have a decision to make regarding your future with him. Tweet