Re: Family breaking apart due to vaccination issue!

Sorry you are in such a rough situation. You have gotten a lot of advice here.

I commend you for not wanting to vaccinate your child. But it looks like your child will be vaccinated regardless of how you feel. If you are separated the wife will vaccinate the child and then your child will grow up with divorced parents = double whammy. If you stay together and the child is vaccinated, it is not ideal by any means but at least the child has both parents.
I find it sad to see that an issue such as vaccination can cause a marriage (with an INFANT nonetheless) to break up. I was interested in the responses you received to see that this has been a line in the sand for other people, as well.

Although the question is, after all of this that has arisen, is it possible to mend your relationship? Can either/both of you reconcile? For you, seeing that your wife wants to divorce you and will kick you out of the house and so on is grievous indeed, and over insisting your child be poisoned, and not even CONSIDERING your opinion. It doesn't seem too much to ask for her to watch your videodisc at least. For her, having a husband with "crazy" ideas who does not want to "take care of" your new baby may scare and anger her, she is full of hormones and has that strong mothering instinct ("Mama Bear") I would imagine. Then again, there probably are other factors at work at least subconsciously, involving her "position" and your lost job, etc. although I wouldn't know. And even if you allowed this vaccination that would likely not be the end of fights over these type of issues.

Again, I will say that it looks like your child will have conventional medical treatment whether or not you authorize it, your consideration now is whether you want to mend your marriage and have your child grow up with married parents - or divorced ones. Perhaps you can convince your wife to delay all vaccinations by 6 months (allowing the child's system to be that much stronger). And as someone suggested, perhaps in the years to come you can slowly, gently interest your wife in alternative health. Obviously there are no guarantees that would happen, and you would have to be extra cautious, seeing how she has already responded. You obviously love and care about your child, I know you are considering the MANY ways this situation will impact the child in the future, not just the vaccination. Also considering and analyzing your relationship with your wife. Can you forgive? What principles matter more to you, in the big picture? What wedding vows did you make? For example, how would this crisis fit under "for better and for worse"? "In sickness and in health"?

I hope your dilemma is resolved in the best way possible, although I don't know what that would be. Best wishes.

~Squeaky~