Re: I thought I was healing...but NO!

Hi, I've been through a similar experience after a break up, the shock, disbelief, dispair, panic attacks, anxiety, unable to leave the house, the unbearable pain and loneliness, insonmia, nobody understands, having to live with family that just don't get what you're going through... Sigh. I feel your pain. I really do. It's called adrenal exhaustion. And it feels like you're going to die.

That was three years ago, and I'm still recovering (due to setbacks, ie. starting the relationship all over again after a year apart, staying together for another year, then breaking up all over again). But I'm a LOT better than what I was.

The big turning point for me was getting into a 12 step program. They didn't have CoDA or SLAA where I was, so I went to AA, because all twelve step programs are based on those principles anyway. As a side effect I decided to stop drinking alcohol and FINALLY conquered my smoking addiction (THE BIGGEST ONE!!!!). But the steps is what helped me the most, and going to the meetings, sharing honestly with the group. I've gone to heaps of counsellors, psychiatrists, psychologists, doctors and used every drug under the sun. Going to meetings works.

Other things that have really helped in my healing journey:

-HOT BATHS with essential oils and soothing music EVERY SINGLE NIGHT BEFORE BED. Get rose oil and roses for yourself and have these with the bath. Love yourself as much as you can. Be tender and gentle.

-Talking to a God of my understanding (this was hard at first, and I'm going through a rough patch again, but it is humbling and worthwhile)

-Natural progesterone cream (the hormonal imbalance from all the stress was unbearable, and my PMS lasted for 7-10 days, plus 5-7 days period, pure suicidal, and I DID admit myself and was put on suicide watch in the local hospital) Rub it on your breasts to heal cystic breasts (sore boobs from PMS)

-Magnesium cream (I can't use it orally due to leaky gut or whatever the hell is going on in there, but ~400mg orally would be better if you can tolerate it without diahorrea)

-Sunrise walks on the beach, followed by a swim. The less you feel like doing it, the more you will benefit. If you don't have a beach, use a river, a lake, any body of natural water. Or the bush and a shower or bucket of water. Get back to nature.

-Watching The Secret (the original unpublished version featuring The Teachings of Abraham with Esther Hicks) I see another user also recommended an Abraham-Hicks publication. I recommend them all. Highly. Especially THE VORTEX, which focusses on relationships.

-Books: Personal Power Through Awareness, The Power of NOW, The Celestine Prophecy. These stand out from the hundreds of others I've read or browsed. They are like bibles for me, and I need constant reminding.

-Food. Eat well, don't skip meals. Hot meals that are warming and comforting. Hot water bottle in bed with you. Snuggle up with the cat or a soft toy.

-Lyprinol, glutamine and Sun Warrior natural raw vegan fermented rice protein. Gunderson's Red Iron. Of all the hundreds of supplements, these work the best, and support your new...

-Resistance training exercise regime. I use the Power Tube Pro strength bands, a yoga mat and a swiss ball and never have to leave the house or set foot in a gym (the last thing you feel like doing right now). THIS COMBINED WITH THE ABOVE SUPPLEMENTS HAS BEEN THE ONLY EFFECTIVE TREATMENT FOR THE PERIOD PAIN AND MID CYCLE PAINS I SUFFERED FROM ALL MY LIFE. Even the progesterone didn't fix this. I had an laporoscopy to check for endometriosis even. Plus, if you are already slim you will be AMAZED at how quickly your physique changes if you follow the steps in the Book "The 28 day Body Shapover" by Brad Shoenfeld. This does wonders for your hormonal balance that NO OTHER THING CAN because it stimulates human growth hormone and testosterone and other anabolic stimulus. Don't neglect the glutamine or you will become overtrained and get sick. AND STOP EATING SUGAR!!!! I know it's really, really, really really really really HARD, but it makes PMS so much worse. I'm sure this is because of the liver.

-Juicing. No matter what I try, I keep coming back to juicing. Lemon juice and warm water in the morning (you MUST stop using all caffeinated drinks if you want the anxiety to stop) to stimulate peristalsis. Then carrot, Celery and (whatever) juice - beetroot, spinach, whatever you want. But the carrots work. Ignore the fact that they contain sugar. They work. They do something to the liver, and help to detox oestrogen, and stimulate your bowel and make your skin better. I've juiced everything there is to juice, and keep coming back to carrots.

-Fresh aloe vera plant rubbed on the skin for Acne etc. Doesn't cure, but helps. Still looking for cure... I keep coming back to liver, pathogens, immunity and dental.

-Follow your heart. Tell your brain to shut up for a SECOND so you can make a gap for God or your higher self to speak to you, and guide you. Listen to your body. Really listen. Carefully. Get lots of fresh air and get outdoors as much as possible. Find a safe space to be. Rocks are good. So are trees, but they can be quite lonely. The beach is better.

And of course... my absolute number one favourite: DRINK LOTS OF COCONUTS!!!!! There are so many reasons why they are good for you, and will really make you feel better instantly.

These are all the things that have worked for me, and it's taken quite some time to implement them all, and I'm not better yet, (some of them, my favourites like hot baths and coconuts I cannot do at the moment because of where I'm living, and I can really feel the difference), but thanks to reading your post I can see how far I've actually come. Wow. I wish I could show you a before and after shot. You would be amazed. Then the backslide after the second breakup. I'M amazed. I don't think there's anything more stressful than a breakup, other than the death of a loved one.

Thanks for sharing.
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