Re: I thought I was healing...but NO!

Well, gal, first and foremost, I commend you for not going back to the guy. You're stonger than you give yourself credit for.

I know from your previous postings, you've tried counseling and said that it didn't work for you. Have you considered trying again? I don't ask this lightly because I know that finding a counselor that's the right fit is sometimes not easy.

I'm going to suggest something a bit unconventional --- Get a copy of "Ask and It is Given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Read the entire book. Once you've done so, try working with some of the processes. Is it a magic bullet? No. However, it does help change your mood. I've read it and still, at times, refer to it when I find myself feeling negative.

As for putting your sorrows in the past --- I wish I had a good answer for that one. It's something that I admit struggling with myself. Logically, you know that whatever happened was in the past and that you can't change it. Yet, in your heart, you still feel the pain as if it were yesterday. The only thing I can suggest as this works for me on a temporary basis---interrupt your thought process and tell yourself, "It's happened. It's done and I can't change it."

Another thought---Have you considered EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)? Some people swear by it. That said, I once had a friend who tried it and it didn't do much for her. However, just because something doesn't work for everybody, doesn't mean that it won't work for you.

Of course, it isn't helping to watch your sister plan her wedding. However, once she marries and has a family, there will always be others that you know who will experience these things.

Consider trying some of the things I've suggested. You really must get your life back!

Best wishes to you, gal. Tweet