Re: Emotional Betrayal

You're welcome.

Ann Landers, the late advice columnist, used to ask women in positions similar to yours ---"Are you better off with him or without him?" Only you can really answer that.

I see a big red flag when you said:

I am 35 now. And my biological clock is driving me crazy. My husband does not want children. I do.

I strongly believe when planning a family, you both have to be on the same page. In other words, you both have to want a child. If you give into him and don't have a child, you will always regret it and feel a hole in your heart. On the other hand, if he is adamant about not wanting to have children and gives into you, most likely he will resent the child and eventually resent you. Some men who say they don't want children do have a change of heart once the baby is born but, IMO, there is no telling how your husband will feel in that situation.

So...after reading your most recent post, it would appear that you are now at a crossroads. After asking yourself the Ann Landers' question, only you can decide if you should stay or if you should move on. Food for thought---you don't have children so if you decide to move on, while not an easy thing to do, it is easier when there aren't children involved.

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