Re: Emotional Betrayal

Thank you, Blue Rose, for your encouraging words.

Yes, my husband was a workaholic even before we got married, but I did not realize what effect it would have on our relationship. Spilled milk. When you are young, you think things can only get better.

We experienced the miscarriage 3 years ago, and one year ago, my husband, after I asked him for emotional support, told me, that in the 5 years we have been married, I have turned into the most boring person he knows. That really hurt and it stuck.

A few months ago, a lady in our choir, was astounded to find out that we were married, and exclaimed that she thought we were brother and sister. That made me think. We have since quit the choir, because it was supposed to be something we did together, but he missed too many practice sessions due to work.

A month ago I suggested we join the gym, so we can have something else we can do together. And yes, after the first week or so, he stopped going regularly because of work. And ironically that is where I met the other man.

I have suggested counseling before and he did not even blink. Frankly, I feel I do not want to try any more. I do love him, but maybe not like I should.

This new blossoming relationship got me so worked up with worry, I fell ill with the flu. I have a strong constitution, and hardly ever get sick.

I will take your advice, and avoid this man, although it pains me. I want to cry when I think about my marriage and dredging on the way we have for the last three years.

I have never cheated on my husband, not even emotionally. This was a very unexpected turn of events.

I have not felt irrational feelings like this since I was a teenager. I am 35 now. And my biological clock is driving me crazy. My husband does not want children. I do.

Could this be the seven year itch?



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