Congratulations...

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby!

I will offer some suggestions on dealing with this situation of cruel insanity, if I may be so bold.

1.  DO NOT attempt to play the same "games" that she does - saying what you think she wants to hear, etc., will only come back to bite you in the proverbial ass.  I promise you, this is 100% true.

2.  DO NOT give in to the impulse to allow a third party to "speak" on your behalf to her, her ex, or anyone else who might be involved in HER issues.  Again, this will come back to bite you in the proverbial ass, I promise you.  Separate yourself from her, entirely.

3.  DO NOT answer any text messages, phone calls, voice-mails, emails, or any other attempts at communicating with you.  There will be no reasonable discussions with this woman, and there will be no positive outcome of any "discussion."  Regardless of the tone, the pleading, or the threats, do not entertain any communications from her - just document them.

4.  DO save every text message, email, voice-mail, etc., that can be documented proof of her games.  Keep them ALL, even the ones where she will attempt to woo you back.  Print out emails, etc. - make copies for your own records and give copies each to your attorney and counselor.

5.  DO document every quote that she says, verbatim.  ONLY FACTS, and not personal insights or feelings.  Do not add, embellish, or omit anything, including your own words, if you choose to respond.

6.  DO keep a written log of these in-person, or verbal conversations in a notebook - NOT on a computer.  DO note the date, time, and circumstances of each conversation.  Carry a small notepad around in your pocket and a little "golf" pencil - you know, the kind that they give out at golf courses. 

7.  DO look into individual counseling for yourself - this road is going to be a very long, very hard, and VERY rough for you.

8.  DO maintain your courage and devotion to the innocent life that has been produced and always remember that your beautiful little girl did NOT have a choice as to whom she would be born to - advocate for your daughter.

9.  DO post back with developments and your personal progress - vent, if you need to, just so you can maintain a clear head throughout these proceedings.

10.  DO seek out an attorney and individual counselor that are both familiar with PSTD, domestic violence/abuse, and sociopathy.  To accomplish this, consult your local attorney and mental health referral services, and explain everything to the "intake" person.  If you do not have the money to spend on an attorney, you may be able to seek Legal Aid to gain custody of your daughter.

11.  DO align yourself with a support group/advocacy group for victims of domestic violence/abuse - they will have a multitude of resources available to help you to help your daughter.

12.  Finally, DO recognize that you are a valuable human being.  You made a bad decision to get involved with this gal, but LET IT GO and learn from this experience.  Become the wise, supportive, and emotionally healthy man that your daughter is going to need so that she doesn't become the same as her egg donor.

Bless you, young man.  May your path be one of healing and wisdom.