My life is over !

In less than 2 months I will get married to a nut job who has utterly ruined me. I need advice as I can't get through this alone.

About 2 years a go I met this gorgeous woman at church who had just become a christian after years of abuse from her parents and an ex. All the guys in church fancied her and to my astonishment she asked me out on a date. She was charming, funny, warm and very sexy and I fell for her. She wanted sex and the more I declined, the harder she tried to seduce me. Eventually I caved in and I enjoyed the best sex of my life. However, she became very controlling and manipulative. Soon as I suggested sex she would flip and call me all kind of names and said I was perverted. All I want to do is use her for sex and I don't care about her and I was a very bad person in her eyes. Next day she would be all over me again. Other times we would prepare a night in with a nice meal and some wine and she would come on to me, then minutes before sex, suddenly start an argument and she would storm off to the bedroom crying, leaving me very confused and angry. She would constantly change her mind about something. I never knew where I stood with her as she wanted to move in with me, then didn't, then did, didn't and finally did want to move in all within a 3 month period. Phew !

She didn't like any of my friends, especially female friends. So and so was a whore, my ex was a lucky girl who escaped from my clutches. Nothing I did was good enough, I was to fat, I needed to change my wardrobe, I needed to cut my hair in a certain style. She constantly argued and was a nightmare. It got bad and before I dumped her I told her to get some help. By the time I left I was a mess, stressed out and my health took a battering.

Fast forward a year and a bit and I bumped into her again. She looked amazing, she was a different person. All smiles, calm and collected, not the intense psycho woman who made my life hell. She explained she's been seeing a counselor and have been on medication. It was a full 2 months seeing her as a friend before I asked her out on a date. We slept together and 3 months later she told me she's pregnant. I was mortified but thought we can get through this. To my horror the old mental girlfriend returned. Bit by bit she started to turn into the nightmare I knew.

I agreed to marry her for our child's sake but know I will either go mad or will have to run because no man can go through this twice. I'm only 25 and it feels like my life is over.

She sounds as if she is narcissistic and I was wondering if anyone had advice on how to deal with this situation. I won't leave my child so will want to be living there with her. Is it a condition that can be cured ? How do I live with someone with NPD ?
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