Re: I need help asap!

You start here:
http://www.codependents.org

You find out if there are meetings where you live and you start going.

It makes me extremely sad that you decided to bring children into the world while being involved with him. I weep for your child and unborn baby. You need to know this --- those kids come first. You do what you have to do to protect them and insure they have the best life possible. How do you do that? For starters, you file for divorce and make sure you have full custody of both kids. You also make sure that he has supervised visits with them. So...first thing tomorrow, you find a lawyer and get started.

You ask why you stay with him. I'm guessing it all boils down to poor self-esteem and low self-confidence. The first time he hit you---and he hit you when you were pregnant!---do you realize he could have harmed your baby???? You should have called the police and had him arrested. Then you should have gotten a restraining order out on him. But hindsight is 20/20 vision. It's not too late to get away from him.

Continue with your counseling. Whenever you are tempted to go back to him, and I'm going to shout this to you ---THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS---THEIR WELL BEING IS OF THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE!

If you haven't already, get some reliable birth control and start using it after you give birth. You don't need to bring anymore children into this world --- at least not now!

Good luck and get going!