Re: narcissistic husband

Hi, I'm glad you posted again. Counseling is not effective for narcissists. My mother went to counseling a few times. It was always the same. She would go to 4 or 5 sessions, then quit. From what she told us of her sessions, it was obvious that she had snowed the counselors. In order for counseling to work, one has to admit that one has a problem, first of all. After that, one has to be willing to do all the hard work necessary to make positive changes. Narcissists don't believe that they have a problem --- they think that everyone else has a problem. Since they are so manipulative, their spouses and children start thinking that they are the ones with the problems, not the narcissists. Narcissists love to blame other people when things go wrong in their lives.

Of course, people outside the immediate family sing his praises. Narcissists can be really charming. Even so, the rest of your family doesn't live with you thus they don't see just what goes on. The fact that you think it's you who has the problem tells me that you've been beaten down---something that narcissists are good at doing. Believe me, I well know having grown up with my narcissist mother.

Once again, are you in the US? If so, then call the Domestic Abuse Hotline. When you talk to the person on the other end of the line, s/he will help you get out. It sounds like your husband has isolated you, which is abusive. Please stop thinking that you have no alternatives---you certainly do! Give that number a call! Tweet