thank you for all your help, im assuming that with washing mouth out and your face neither you or your husband has herpes on your face or mouth ?? i have learned to deal with it. this girl i am talking to was way more understanding then i thought which i was expecting her to tell me she was to young to get it and leave. . but she has been there and said we can try to prevent it and if not oh well then im stuck with an amazing man. . i think without here i would crumble at this point . .