thanks for your input herb-gal

You said: "Don't lie to someone about whether you like them or not. Of course it's crappy to do that because you're lying. That tells you have a little bit a conscience if you at least feel a little bit guilty about lying to people.

What would you think if you could sense that a person likes you and then they turned you down and said they didn't? Just because you don't vocalize your feelings doesn't mean others can't sense them."

I didn't mean it like that. My English is crappy at times as it is not my first language. Sometimes I translate literally from what I want to say and it comes out warped. (<-- that sentence sounds strange as well, doesn't it?)

What I meant was that occasionally, I'm in a situation where I meet someone that I enjoy spending time with, but have no romantic feelings toward them. Which is fine when they feel the same way about me. I have several male friends that treat me as a sister rather than a potential fling.

Now, if someone does fancy me and I don't fancy him, I'll have to tell him that so that even though he may get his feelings hurt, atleast he knows the truth. By saying I didn't like telling people I liked that I wasn't into them, I meant that. If I do fancy someone, I let them know. You're right if you're implying I'm not blunt about it. I usually drop hints and take it from there.

"As far as your yo-yo dieting from junk food to lettuce...you might want to post on our eating disorder forum and see how similar your other habits are to those with EDNOS, COED, Anorexia, and BED."

I had an eating disorder. I know that. I'm pretty convinced I got past it now. Sure, sometimes when I pig out on a birthday party, the idea of restricting a lot the next day enters my head, but I banish it. I've been my own ginea pig when it comes to my diet and my body doesn't lie when it comes to the result of the viscious circle of restricting excessively-->binging --> restricting, etc etc. I would have done it differently if I knew what I know now. Like everyone else on this planet. I've adapted a healthier lifestyle, instead of dieting. I don't binge, nor restrict excessively. Food is also not the primary subject in my head anymore, so I think that's a good sign. I'll follow your advice when I get wind of things going south again. Or if my family tells me I'm starting to get obsessive again. Still, I hope I can beat them to the diagnosis, if at all.

anyway, thanks for your input



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