Re: Educated, Insightful, but I'm Still Here. Help me Leave.

"narcissists don't change their stripes. They don't see that they have a problem. In their eyes, everyone else has a problem---not them."
This sums up exactly what my parents are and how they react with people

"very manipulative... People outside the family saw a nice, friendly, helpful person. The family, for the most part, saw an emotionally, verbally...abusive...(person).

Now that I'm grown up, this has become very clear that both of my parents posess these traits. When I was younger, I never understood how they could be so kind and nice to people on the outside. The treatment they gave was totally the opposite direction. I was there for all their emotional needs and expected to do everything they desired. I learned my feelings weren't important and that I was their slave. The bad part about all of this is that their manipulation has gotten the family to believe I am the rotten outcast. These two are some real sick people for the cruel things they did to me growing up. As soon as I saw an opportunity to get away from them, I took it. I signed up for trade school out of state and vow I would rather die than live with them ever again. They didn't like me moving to go to school. I got my degree in a field that was more of a hobby than what I wanted for a career. To me, it was worth $25k to leave the abuse behind. I worked in that line of work for almost 4 years before I took the opportunity to move across country. They wanted me back so bad that I had to move farther than one state away. They went crazy and were to the point of getting a moving truck and forcing me to go back. I am now 2500 miles away and wish it was farther but that ocean is the problem. I have a better life now even though I had to virtually abandon everyone just to get away from them. I told them about being raped when I was 11 and they turned all of it around on me after staying silent for 15 years. If people from the outside could have seen what happened behind closed doors, there would have been fury of pissed off people after them.

As far as your advice about finding a new therapist, I agree that would be beneficial and the only way you will be able to get the best help for your time and money. Finding the right one is priceless.
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