First, thank you so much for finding the time to reply. The day before our wedding anniversary, something whispered to me and so I came to my husband and told him. " Dear, I want us to have peace." I told him that I just want us to start over and pretend like we just got married.He received it very well and he expressed that he's also wishing for the same thing. He admitted that he committed a lot of wrong in our relationship and would be willing to make it better. Knowing him, I actually didn't expect this kind of response from him, I believe he was sincere.Then I read your response, is it a coincidence or what? I know that we still have a long way to recover from 9 yrs of bad marriage, so I will try to use your advice as I go along to this healing.
I thank you mia dearden for your advice and being a friend when I need it most, I don't have (much) friends in this country,lol!
I hope you continue to help more people through your forum Vanja!