confused

Hi Vanja!

First I want to tell you that I am inspired by the vast knowledge you impart through your forum. Thank you.

Reading your post about family demons and abuse, I'm kind of confused about how to deal with my husband who is abusive verbally and emotionally. I am torn between leaving him and staying with him. I can see that his constant anger and degrading words to the children are taking a toll on their self esteem. He is always negative and tend to scold the kids for every little thing. With me, it's worst. We've been married for 9 yrs now and I suffered a lot of insults, name calling and other verbal and emotional assaults.You said that we can find love in a relationship if we are patient and tolerant. Does this mean that I should just put up with all this. I'm really tired, I feel drained coz I tend to be defensive when he start attacking me. You said that we should just make light of this situation. Did I understand it correctly? Something inside me just can't let him treat me this way.I really try to be a good wife and mother to the kids so I really CANNOT understand why he treats me like this.

I'm still staying with him all this time coz I'm scared of the consequences of letting the kids grow up without a father.So I really don't know what to do and need your insight Vanja.
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