unfortunately however, I don't think you'll be able to crack this case. For it to have a productive conclusion, first the root of the problem must be acknowledged and addressed, which obviously can't be done as long as there's denial of the very facts themselves by the subject. /:-{
Secondly, you (Gilda), have been eliminated as a credible source of input, ad hominem style. Since now it's not just what you say, but the "annoying" way in which you say it, you have been effectively disqualified. None of this whirlwind is lost on you of course, ....but what can you do now ?