Re: Trusting the trustworthy

It takes time to heal after we have been betrayed, when our life has been shattered to the point that we cannot see not only tomorrow but the very next minute.  Yet, it is very important to never lose the ability to love again, to trust again, for by doing so, we only cheat ourselves of true happiness.  I realize that this takes work, and believe me, I do realize how the act of betrayal can jar our very souls.  Sometimes that fear surfaces but we must not let it snowball on us.  It is important to ask ourselves why we feel that fear.  And the answer is within us, it is not a husband, significant other, or anyone else.  It is within ourselves.  It is important to address ths issue, ask ourselves why we are hurting so (whether it is anger or fear, even lack of trust), and address the issue from within. 

And yes, this man will have issues.  Only because nobody is perfect.  Love him, even with those issues, for to love you mate is to love the whole person for who and what he is.  After all, in a relationship we have two imperfect people.  Love each other and be there for your mutual growth together.  Communication is very important.  Keep those lines open, but always with love and understanding.  And if you are insecure or hurt about something, by all means voice it, yet in a non threatening manner.  "This is how I feel.........."  When these feelings are not communicated and resolved, then resentment creeps in.

You said something very important.  He loves you and you have never been this happy before.  Bask in it.  Be grateful, and love him.  You were once wounded very deeply, and wounds leave scars, even on our souls.  Yet, we can grow and learn to love and trust again.  Don't let that person that hurt you so badly rob you of happiness.  You deserve the best of everything.

Hugs,

Luella