Invincible - more questions :-)

Maya, I would like to know something. Besides focusing on 1. positive things in general, I am supposed to focus on 2. what I like already like about my husband, things that he already does. So, I do say things such as, "I like it when he calls me to see how Im doing" etc.

Now about 3. focusing on how I want it to be. How about focusing nice things that he used to to (more), since he did some things much more in the beginning of our relationship ;-)? Is it okay to say "I fondly remember when x called me frequently" or " ...when he brought me those pretty flowers" or "...when he took me out to dance" etc. because it feels good when he shows me his affection?

Or should I only phrase it like this "I see x calling me more often", "...taking me out to" etc? Then of course the "wouldnt it be nice if method, like "wouldn't it be nice if he called me more often...". Speaking of calling "more often" - now I wonder if this is focusing on lack of not calling enough? :-)

Lastly, I would love to hear your general thoughts on men and women playing traditionally different roles. I have read many times that men are the persuers and women are to be persued, men should do the calling, men need to be the care takers, etc. How does this relate to LOA??

I have a feeling that often this leads to poeple playing games and that cant be sending out positive vibrations! I tend to believe that LOA is the only rule we need, and that it is just fine if a woman calls a man. The important thing is that she is not pressuring, insecure, and that sending out negative vibrations leading to resistance in the man? But if its done in a way that feels like "I would love to see you but if this is not a good time for you right now Im okay also since Im happy with me and my life" that it would not lead to a negative response in the man?

I guess what I wanna know is, does one have to worry about EMASCULATING a man that way? What I was thinking is, I would like say to hubby for example maybe "I would love it if you would go see a movie or movie x with me sometimes", all with positive vibes, so if he says no, or says maybe but doesnt follow up its okay also :-)

Also, how about telling him when he does something I like, for example if he calls me just to see how Im doing, that I love when he does so? That way instead of just visualizing him doing it (or more of it), lead things in this direction a little more actively WITHOUT demanding anything? Of course sparingly :-)

Oh boy - this post got way longer than I intended, hoenstly :-) But one thought lead to the next...I couldn't help it :-)

Whenever you get the chance :-) Thanks much Maya!