To equate "nice" with wimpish and ineffectual, and "bad" with character and fortitude. Where have men of honesty, honor, dignity, moral fiber and quality gone?
Setting boundaries is not the same as aggression, nor is kindness and thoughtfulness a weakness. Problem is, not having seen much of the real thing around, these bizzare amalgams are the only things that our young, hopelessly confused, demoralized and self destructive American males are capable of emulating.