Re: cheating

"But of course I am worried, will there be a next time 10 yrs from now?"
Probably.

"Can he refuse someone if they put themselves in front of him & offer it?"
Depends. He might be able to, if he can figure out how to handle his hormonal urges in a more productive manner, and if he has a regular outlet for them that is less dangerous, if the adrenaline rush of "maybe getting caught" isn't fueling the behavior, and/or if he is willing to go deeply enough into relationship with you to experience an internal transformation.

Sounds like the creepiest part of all this is the woman down the street aspect of it.
Is she young and searching for the big O in the sky, looking for the magic man with the magic wand, the one who is just the right fit for her? Or what? If your husband had been "the one", would she have had an "all's fair in love and war" attitude, and tried to take him away from you, instead of wanting to cuddle up and be your friend?
She tried your husband on for size and he didn't fit her right, so you get to keep him, and she wants to be your friend. Yuck. Is she married? If so, are they swingers? How did you find out? Did one or both of them need to be accepted and forgiven?

A woman who worked for me had sex with my boyfriend while I was out of town one time, and he caught herpes from her. She had the audacity to bake me some cookies and confess. I accepted the cookies and fired her.

Please see "The Reality" posted below.
Did you see the movie Frida?


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