Re: I am having some serious issues with my sex life please help!!!!

I would also add that it is as much a problem with her pleasuring you as it is you pleasuring her. Obviously you feel that foreplay is important to and for you...and it should be. That need is no less valid. There seems to be a disconnect in compatability sexually. With the right person, it all falls into place and matches and is absolutely awesome.

I know it is easy for me to say, but don't let this get you down to much. Your mind is, I would guess, playing a huge role in your problem with getting/maintaining an erection. Her attitude toward you is only going to make that worse. Your lack of experience is what I would think is causing your premature finish. Both are repairable...with the right person and with the right prep on your part so keep that in mind.

Think strongly about training your body to be able to delay your ejaculation, there are articles all over the internet about it. You know why there are so many articles about it...because so many people experience it so you are not alone. However, there are many that don't and if you want to be one of those people, you can. The problem with playing with yourself, spanking the monkey is that generally a guy is just interested in the end point so over time a person trains their body to reach that point as quickly as possible. That is the opposite of what your trying to achieve now, it is no longer just about the orgasm it is now about pleasuring each other. When your having sex you are experiencing a much greater sensation than you can provide yourself and of course, you will reach orgasm more quickly because of that...not to mention the emotions and anxiety you feel which you dont when your "taking care of business".

My suggestion mirrors the others. Think clearly about what it is you really love about this person. I am sure you are in love with this woman, but maybe she is simply not the right one for you long term. Don't accept your problems, work on them as they are repairable. I am unsure if your relationship problems are but I wish you the best of luck. If she is very concerned about sexual satisfaction via intercourse only and is unwilling to work with you, I would be very concerned that long term she will find that satisfaction elsewhere. I am betting there is a woman out there who is a sexual match for you and once you have worked on your issues and became more confident in yourself, you will rock her world (and I promise if you do..she will rock your!!!).

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