Re: I am having some serious issues with my sex life please help!!!!

I second this guys opinion.

Also, Learn self-control. When a man has developed true self-control, his woman will know it, & it can be very satisfying for both, & very empowering, but even with this, a partner who is not mature/developed emotionally/spiritually enough to apreciate it, will not, no matter what you do.
It takes a while to purify the mind of past lustful entrapments, & in these modern times, I do not know how a healthy person (physically) is capable of it without some serious divine help.
Brahmacharya is wonderful. As far as pleasing a woman goes, the art of teasing, it's mastery, can be very rewarding. I do not know if a simple google search for "sexual teasing" would really teach you what you need to know. The idea is to show her your own self-control, that you have the ability to make the whole process as long & drawn out as you like, & make her want & desire you, & ultimately beg & scream for you. If you can get her to the point where she's begging & screaming for you to just insert yourself, it probably wont matter that much wether you unload on entrance or not, but even if you do get her satisfied in this manner, great sex wont make a relationship work, & niether will having a woman who desires you grately. Whatever is involved in making a relationship really work, I'm not sure, but I think it is impossibly unless the other partner is also willing to be open, honest, kkind, considerate, & grow/heal, also. If she's not willing to be vulnerable w/ you & do learn w/ you, I'd talk about it w/ someone you can trust who has good experience w/ healthy relationships before you make any major commitments. Someone who can keep a secret, even.
Personally, I have not had sucessful long-term relationships (& I'd like to hear the opinions of those who have), but I've had great sex with my ex-wife, when we were married, & I feel, that being with a woman who doesnt deny her man, even if he's not very desired at the moment, is very endearing, loving, and a wonderful gift/blessing, as long it doesnt turn in to resentment & bitterness, but even with that wonderful blessing holding the marriage together, if she is a liar, & a tyrant, & yells & swears at you, or beats you, nothing can hold such a relationship together, but seperation or death. Choosing the wrong woman for marriage can become a total hellish nightmare, which can leave a man wishing for death. Choosing a woman to marry, because one gave in to lustful temptation & wants to somehow make the sin right, or blessed with marriage, doesnt work either. Also, choosing to replace the joys of marriage, with the desires of worldly entrapments - outside of marriage, even if real sex isnt involved, has severe consequences as well. Damn, spiritual life is tough, aint it? :) Tweet