Unable to let go (Q for Shelleycat) 
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Hi Shelley,
You've done my numerology before, in regards to this year and my health. You've also given me advice on your forum, most recently re: coffee and insomnia.
I have more of a personal/emotional question for you.
I broke up with my partner almost 2 years ago- we were together only for 4 years. We were 'friends' at first after the breakup and then a year ago she decided not to talk to me anymore- long story but she basically couldn't handle being around me.
I can't seem to break away from this person emotionally.
I think about her way too much and have not been at all
interested in new relationships.
Even though I know it was a destructive relationship
(she is emotionally withdrawn like my father, which
probably accounts for much of ther karmic attraction),
I guess I still feel like there will never be another
for me.
It's driving me crazy!
I know this is also tied to health stuff- trouble
letting go is a general issue for me.
OK, so any insight?
Me-10/21/1968
her-04/03/77
thanks.
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This is a reply to # 623,272Me-10/21/1968 - 28/1 -
2/3/5/1
her-04/03/77 - 31/4 -
1/3/2/2
Hi Keason! Ah, the one that won't go away... I've had two or three of those in my life, except the main reason they wouldn't go away for me is we were never really able to get together! LOL! They were always living very far apart or involved in semi-relationships with other people. That can't quite attain thing is very addictive. I love the chase more than the actual catch, I'm afraid.
So okay, just the fact that you were both born on the 3rd day is quite intoxicating. Certain numbers don't enjoy meeting others of the same number, but for 3's it's especially fun, like catnip, because here's a person who's fun, into things you may not be into, and you're always up for getting into new things! You both express yourselves in interesting, unique ways, and appreciate that about people.
You have very similar challenges too, so there's a lot happening between the two of you. A lot of push-pull, karmic mirror exercises, if you know what I mean. You reflect each other back to each other, both the best and the worst. That made the relationship both healing and challenging/growing. And since she's ultimately a 4, that's very grounding for you, very much "home" for your 1ness.
Since emotions follow thoughts and ideas, you've got to root out the ideas/thoughts/beliefs that are not serving you here. When feelings are not validated by the other person, then your feelings just aren't real, they're obsession. Obsession is due to some kind of mental stuckness, some merry-go-round like a programming loop or tautology.
It coudl very well be that you two contracted to experience this relationship, but contracts formed in between lives here are not guarranteed, we still have free will to say no. Perhaps you contracted for more and now feel cheated.
Check in with your Higher Self and ask your HS if this now one-sided relationship is appropriate for your highest good now. Meditate on it. Ask out loud for help, support, strength, peace of mind, direction to your highest good. Stay open minded and keep an eye out for answers/tips.
Hope that helps! :)
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MoreThis is a reply to # 623,273Great description- thanks so much.
I have tried the meditation, and what keeps coming up for me is
that she was/is "SUPPOSED" to give me what I could never get from my father. I think that's more of my wishful thinking than any contract, though. In a positive sense, she certainly made me aware of how I was trying to resolve old daddy-issues through my personal relationship/s.
And, this being her birthday weekend, I came across an online personals ad that is undoubtably from her (small world, huh?)- looking for a birthday date. Here I thought I had made all this progress and in that moment, my heart feels totally beaten again.
Oh it's definitely obsession.
I need to work on clearing that, will try the HS suggestion.- Re: Unable to let go (Q for Shelleyc... shelleycat
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This is a reply to # 623,274ah, daddy issues! Yep, had to resolve many of those myself, and it took my down some very interesting paths I must say! If I ever get really really brave I'll write a book about my sexual history, definitely not for the timid Bwa hahahahah! ;) Want to be one of my readers? Essays like that need good feedback to get better. :)- Re: dear ol' dad keason
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Sure, I'd be happy to read and comment.
Not a timid one, I assure you, though
definitely empathic to the pain of others.
I think one of my major life lessons is learning
to deal with being so damn empathic w/out
letting it destroy me... you know, caring about others
w/out martyring myself to try to save them.
Got off to a rolicking start with dear old dad,
and then was hit hard again with this last relationship.
As I said- I know all this ties in with illness,
I connect my difficulty w/relationship boundaries to
my body's reaction to certain foods, chemicals,
almost like my body is trying to erect boundaries
of its own b/c energetically I have not done so.
Make sense?
Sorry to drag this out- you're interesting to talk to!
So many people in my life do not think this way,
if ya' know what I mean.
Good luck with all your work!- Re: dear ol' dad shelleycat
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This is a reply to # 623,278Oh yes, allergies are often connected with emotions and boundaries.
I have a friend who gets the pollen-type allergies and every cold or flu that passes thru. She also has a tendancy to get stuck in power plays, the tyrant/victim base level of things, thinking she's under attack when she's not. TAking things personal when it's not, it's just people being people. Wanting others to change when she's the one with the problem.
I detest getting into arguments with her because she can't stay on topic, she has to go off on what my facial expressions look like, my gestures, anything she chooses to find offensive. Aarrrgghhh! LOL! There are none so blind...
Now, getting sick because of a lack of boundaries and wanting to embrace the world too much emotionally, that's an interesting way to look at it. Will have to ponder that! :) People challenged by the 2 or have 2's often have poor boundaries because their parents set such poor examples as to what a healthy partnership is.
Thanks to my parents, I'm flabbergasted by couples who actually DO things for each other without going totally overboard, keeping a balance between being supportive life-mates without getting all co-dependent. I didn't know how to do that very well, only if I'm not really emotionally invested. I can easily get the mix right if I don't care too much about whether the person stays or goes in my life LOL! ;)
Right now I'm totally celibate, a monk! and it's a nice change. My 30's were all about sexual/relationship exploration, so ... been there done that. ;) I'm only wearing comfortable shoes from now on LOL! :)- Re: dear ol' dad keason
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This is a reply to # 623,279you said: Oh yes, allergies are often connected with emotions and boundaries.
Oh drat! So this isn't my brilliant idea? (ha!)
So- b/c I'm 2/3/5/1, 2 is my challenge?
Because that description is spot on
(lack of boundaries from poor parental example)
as is your own personal experience (you're also 2?)
With my history of codependent relationships
with withdrawn, emotionally cold people-
my current celibacy is a celebration!
You did tell me this is a big year of
growth for me, and I can feel a huge change
a' brewing. I am planning a 3 week European
vacation this fall- by myself! This is truly
an enormous step for me and I am very excited.
Just wish I could stop the obsessing over the past.
Maybe there is more to come between us in the
future? That may be more obsessional thinking- that
she will someday get it together and be able to
be with me.
Hopefully by then I'll be able to laugh at it all.
:)- P.S. keason
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You amaze me!
Juggling responses to various questions in
different forums.
Do you ever get a break??
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This is a reply to # 623,282LOL! I don't want a break - my temp job is too boring. ;) I constantly have to conform to other people's ideas of how long it should take for a job to get done, which is much longer than I need, so I need other outlets to keep busy and stave off boredom. :) So now I love this job and don't want it to end because it's paying me to not only help the company but CureZone people too! ;)
Yep, that's a 2 thing, I just hadn't thought of it in that exact way before, so that was an original idea as far as I know! ;) My challenges are 2/2/2/0! So I'm totally hypersensitive and self-absorbed LOL! When I get tired of myself I find other people to be interested in. ;) Public school was a nightmare for me. The first two years I only went like 3 days a week because I couldn't handle it. If I even witnessed someone being mean, not to me but others, I felt hurt.
Wow, 3 weeks in europe all by yourself? I'm impressed! Are you going to hook up with any CureZone members? :)
I've been to Europe but it was while working and I had a co-worker with me who knew English, Swedish and German while I knew a bit of French and computers so we were never at a loss. I was surprised by how easy it was to get around and do things, can't wait to go back! The european attitude towards life cured me of my workaholic tendancies. :) Be sure to talk to the regular people there - ask them things like their take on alcohol, drunk driving. It's fascinating to hear the views change from country to country! :)- Re: P.S. keason
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This is a reply to # 623,284
Je parle français aussi-un peu.
And to be honest, I will spend a few days with
family, who will be vacationing in Spain.
Otherwise, yep, all on my own.
I've always wanted to do it but always
had such fears about being alone.
Not necessarily for my physical safety-
just a codependent thing. Feels good to
try to break free of that.
I wonder about these numbers- I have a 2
challenge and I am often presented
with other 2's (my ex, probably my dad).
What I want more than anything is to
'save' them from their emotional pain,
that exact kind of emotional pain you describe
as making it difficult for you to attend school.
I feel like I want to show them that in spite
of all the pain, the world can be a beautiful
place if you let love in (corny but true).
I suppose in reality this is what I want for myself.
Well, great chatting with you and we ALL
appreciate that your job affords you the
time to share your knowledge with us!
Thanks for the great suggestions.
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