the dreaded "M" 
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How many of you think Masturbation is normal at 36 yrs old? Married but still M almost daily.- Re: the dreaded "M" Wrenn
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MoreThis is a reply to # 529,550sounds fine to me . youare relieving your stress/tension andnot stepping out on your wife.
my only q woudl be are you substitutin gthis in exchange for intimacy with your wife? or jstu as a tension out let?
guys often have higher drives than women / bu tif your wife is about your age/ and kids or other energy drains are no tin force.. maybe youneed grab her a bi tmore often? *smile* cause if sheis in her 30's she is at her sexualdrive peaka boutnow anyhow.. maybe she is doing same thing? and youboth jstu need to get together on it?
but even if you don't.. it sounds liek normal to me/ we livein a very stress/ tension filled society and tha tis a goo dway to relax. esp if not following after with guilt or self conciousness
Ami B.
just please wash up hands after lol !! esp if work in eating palces etc *joking*
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MoreThis is a reply to # 529,550i think It is great... my Bf of 2 years does it and at times ill ask to even be involved.. there is nothing wrong with having an outlet other than yoru wife... It gives you a SAFE enviorment to feel good with out having to do something you BOTH will regret... Im glad though you even admitted to it! that in its self is amazing.. keep up the good work and if for some reason you begin to have guilt * either try involve her Or think about ... are you ignoring her to please your self? .....that is the only negitive thing that could occur from this!
- Re: the dreaded "M" markxx
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This is a reply to # 529,556No; I am in no way ignoring her!! I have tried to include her during stroking myself but she only enjoys any type of contact if shes had a few glasses of wine. I feel after 12 years there must be a problem. I've tried everything. Its never been like this with any other GF Ive had but I hang in there. She does seem to like to watch ejaculate though. Is that something that rings a bell with woemen?- How to help your wife - and anyone w... shelleycat
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This is a reply to # 529,562"M" (as you put it) is completely normal and a wonderful way to celebrate our sexuality, give our fantasies free reign. It's a great cure for headaches and insomnia.
Now as for your wife, do you mean that she cannot have ANY kind of sexual intimacy with you until she's had a few glasses of wine? Sounds like she is where I was many years ago. I refused to get married because I felt I would never get over my sexual phobias in a marriage, which tend to get comfortable, know what I mean? I went from dreading penetration to totally loving it and getting kinky even. ;)
First of all, you have to ask her if she wants to change, and make it clear that you support her and love her either way.
Then, you have to get her to tell you what exactly she loves, likes and dislikes about sex. What she thinks during sex. how she thinks if she didn't have the wine. What those little voices are telling her. Ask her if she feels like she has total complete permission to feel anything and do anything in the bedroom. It would help if there was mood lighting, wine and chocolate while you did this.
Just listen, don't respond. Hold her, stroke her, it may help if you're spooning and not face to face.
You may have to be somewhat assertive to get her to tell you this. Just ask her, if not you, whom?
Make an appointmnet for you to respond to everything she said. That's the second tryst, for you to discuss it. The first is just for her to open up without fear of judgement or shock or what-all. Don't be a male and try to argue what she says, apply logic, or solve problems. She just has to be heard. Make sure she understands this is the point of the tryst before you begin. Show her this post in fact and ask her if she'd like to do it as I describe.
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This is a reply to # 529,596"Don't be a male and try to argue what she says, apply logic, or solve problems". What kind of advice is that? Telling a man not to be a man. Look, I agree with the rest of your message but the lady seems to have deeper problems.- Re: How to help your wife - and anyo... shelleycat
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This is a reply to # 529,614LOL! One of the major breakdowns in communication between men and women is that women just want to be heard and men try to solve their problems, which is completely frustrating to we women when we're being emotionally vulnerable.
To get anywhere in helping someone, whether the problems are simple or deep, you have to have clear, safe, validating communication. This is the first necessary step - listening without responding. You'd be suprised. Many times once something is spoken of out loud, it's cured - becomes a non-issue. Nothing else need be done. Like venting. It helps to vent.
When you complain about your boss, do you expect anyone to be able to solve your issues with your bosses' decisions and actions? No, he's the boss! What he says goes. But it helps to vent, right? It takes the pressure off. It's like that.- Communication breakdown issues. #11369
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This is a reply to # 529,620As a male, I think a woman should tell us "Baby please listen to me, I ONLY want to be heard, please don't respond. I'm sure if women would say that, we would do it, but that doesn't happen. We, as protectors, tend to try to help or solve problems, it's our nature. Either way , we lose, if we keep our mouth shut, she will think that we don't care and don't understand her. Am I right guys?- Re: Communication breakdown issues. shelleycat
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This is a reply to # 529,623I think you're absolutely right. And when we forget to preface our sharing with this statement (because we emotional beings tend to be forgetful), the male should ask, before responding, "How can I help you best right now? Do you want my opinion or just my emotional support right now?"
:) :) :) - Re: Communication breakdown issues. seahorse
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This is a reply to # 529,623it sounds like ur a bit angry with women or a certain women.......duh."Baby please listen to me, I ONLY want to be heard, please don't respond- i dont get this bit. whether ur taken the p or not, u still sound annoyed, but its not gonna help tlking to other angry men even thou it might vent. just tell this women how u feel and ask her why she thinks all these things, ive the same problem with my bf. ussally women (or men in my case) get annoyed when u do things to offend them without realising then theyll explode on u, and ur better of just talking about it i think. it helps me and will hopefully help u.
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This is a reply to # 529,627I was responding to the previous message. Please read the other message before mine.
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- Re: the dreaded "M" markxx
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- Markxx athena1
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This is a reply to # 529,550I think "M" is not a good thing to keep doing. I don't think it's healthy. Maybe you ought to try to see a psychiatrist and have him/her put you on an antidepressant that will reduce your sex drive since your partner is not having sex w/you on a regular basis. I really wish you would stop violating yourself.
- Re: Markxx markxx
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This is a reply to # 529,686Found it. I'll try to respond to you message and concern. I have very little sex drive. I feel 3 times a month is not too much too ask. Also, its not good to recommend putting someone on mood altering drugs. I have documentation that those drugs cause more problems.
- It all depends.. athena1
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This is a reply to # 529,691I was on both Celexa and Wellbutrin at the same time w/no side effects. It made me more calm in stressful situations. It also help to curb my sexual appetite,which was really high, now it's nonexistent. I think it's a good thing for me since I don't have anyone. I just thought it might help you with your crisis right now.
- Re: It all depends.. grog
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This is a reply to # 529,698people come to curezone to get off those discusting drugs and you are pushing them on people shame on you!
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- It all depends.. athena1
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