Life Insights 
nidhi
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Dear Andreas,
I really appreciate your work, and the time you spend to help us. This is not a health related question, but I have read some very enlightening answers you have given for other life issues, and I wish you could do the same for me.
I was in a marriage that was not of my choice, but arranged for me, and I was really miserable for the whole nine years that it lasted. I tried sincerely with all of my heart and effort to make it work, but finally had to face the fact that it would not, and I felt that I would die early of some illness if I did not get out. During the process of coming to this conclusion, and since we separated, I have learned many things, and grown in many useful ways, so I do not feel that it was all a waste.
However, if I'm not careful, I find myself regretting the wasted years (most of my childbearing years, I have no children), and feeling very little hope for my future. Having been brought up in a very strict culture, I have never dated, and do not feel comfortable with that concept, even now. However, I do wish for true love and romance in my life. Having never experienced it in my marriage, I feel that I have really missed out.
Do you have any insights for me? Can you see anything particular happening in my future? If I knew that something would, or would not happen, then I feel that I could direct my energies accordingly. You are the only person whose insights I would trust. I would appreciate anything you could tell me.
Thank you very much!
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- Re: Life Insights createmagik
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This is a reply to # 495,878The other person whose insights you can trust is yourself... spend some time in meditation and prayer and ask your higher self all of your questions. You will receive invaluable responses from the same source that Andreas accesses. If you need guidance or have any questions, please email me. Your story is beautiful, please remember you will create whatever it is you truly want. I recommend many of Lapis' posts to help guide you along your way.
- Thank you -- more details -- Andreas... nidhi
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This is a reply to # 495,892Dear Createmagik,
Thank you very much for your advice, and encouragement. It is very kind and generous of you to take interest in my situation and offer additional guidance.
I agree with you in concept, however, I am a bit apprehensive in dealing directly with the spiritual world. I feel that it could be potentially dangerous, and I am not experienced.
The other issue is, that I don't think that I trust myself to know what will ultimately be the best for me. An analogy would be that a child may like to eat ice cream everyday, but this would be detrimental to the child, so it would be best if this wish were not granted. In the same way, when I want something to happen very much, there is a part of me that has doubts about whether that particular path would ultimately be good for me, and I become unsure of whether I should pursue it.
Without going into too much detail, when I was 16, I had a crush on a guy. Direct contact was limited, but from what little contact we had, I thought that he was the nicest person in the world. I did not see him again until after I graduated from college, at which time his family visited my family. Apparently, they were interested in me, for one of their sons, but we never knew which one, for certain. My relatives, who acted as the middlemen, had their own interests, and did not convey messages properly, and I think they made both sides angry. So, that fell through, and I was broken hearted. Two and a half years later, my parents decided on someone else, and I did what was expected of me.
Throughout my painful and disappointing marriage, I was completely faithful to my husband, and never entertained thoughts of anyone else. However, now that that is over, and I have heard that this other person has not been married, I feel that maybe something was meant to happen between us. But you see, I never really knew this person, and have no opportunity of getting to know him, as he lives 6 hours from me. If anything were to start up again, it would have to be arranged, and to start something like that, I would have to be sure, which I am not.
A good deal of my mental energy is spent obsessing about what to do, and what would be the outcome. As I mentioned earlier, I do not trust myself to know what would be best. So, I feel that if someone whom I trust, and who has spiritual abilities, like Andreas, could tell me if success and happiness lies in that path which I wish to pursue, if he knows what is in the mind and intention of the other person, if he could tell me how this will all happen (will his family visit again?), or anything else which is revealed to him, then I think I would feel some peace about this whole issue.
You have given me very good advice, however, due to my own limitations (i.e. my fear, and lack of trust in myself), I do not know how to make use of it. I hope that your good opinion has not changed after hearing the whole story. It may be difficult to understand, if you were not raised under the same rules as I was. Recently, a good person has shown interest, repeatedly asking me to dinner, concerts, etc., but I have been afraid to accept. The whole idea of any physical contact before marriage is something I am very uncomfortable with. Besides, I have never been interested in anyone other than this man with whom I thought I fell in love, at age 16. I don't think I could ever think of anyone else until I know for sure that nothing was meant to happen between him and me. It may sound like a crazy obsession to anyone else, but to me, this is reality.
If you do have further advice, or insights of your own, I would be very happy to receive and consider them. Again, I thank you for your concern and generous advice.
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- Re: Life Insights #37831
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This is a reply to # 495,904I am very intrigued about what country or culture you come from! Not in a bad way, I am just interested as you are right, for most westeners this sounds very different to what we know. But with most respect for you and your situation, I can see how difficult your situation must be. You say you cannot trust yourself - and i know sooo much what you mean but just starting would be a good start. Its only your head which says you cannot trust yourself. Meditation is not some sort of magic....you will not get carried away and be out of control as to what is happening. It is not brain wash done by someone else - it is purely sitting down in quiet and look inside yourself and get to know what's in there - the real you. It can be boring, it can be interesting, it can be crazy or surprising but all you do is find out about yourself and that will give you the insight of how you can trust yourself. You cannot do wrong with that. if you sit down in quiet for 15 Minutes and concentrate on your breathing, try not to think and if you do let the thoughts pass and concentrate on counting your breath (makes it easier not to think). Eventually all the thoughts go and what is left is you. You will see more clearly and trust yourself in what you see.... Good luck!
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- Re: Life Insights nidhi
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This is a reply to # 495,911Thank you for your advice, reasoning, and instructions. What you have described seems safe enough, and I will try.
To answer your questions, I come from India, and my family is quite strict. It may come as a surprise that I would be afraid of meditation, yoga, etc. coming from India, but the reason is that we know of people who have become insane, and even possessed with evil spirits through these activities. Most people from there just go to spiritual men to get answers instead of contacting the spirits themselves. What you have explained does seem to be safe, but there is just a general fear of spirits.
Andreas' spirit, I feel, is good and pure. He is always truthful, and his intention is always to help and not harm, which is why I feel safe asking him.
I'm not arguing with what you have said, but just explaining why I feel this way.
- Re: Life Insights #37831
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This is a reply to # 495,919I totally agree with you that you can trust Andreas for advice and i myself have asked him many things - and always felt his true and good intentions. So thats true, if you ask someone-ask him! I can also see your concern about spirits and the worry about it...it is best to be very careful with these things. So for the solution of your problems I wish you the best of luck!!
- Thanks for your wishes! nidhi
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- Re: Thanks for your wishes! Boldyloxx
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This is a reply to # 495,926dear nidhi,
I think in your case- we have to pray for you that our Creator will send the one meant for you. This sort of thing can't be arranged by man .
Also- you are right in not having sexual relations with a guy before marriage. This is also how Christians were taught- but many have departed from that. It makes the two people preoccupied in a physical relationship- without realizing they need to grow in other areas first-- then after being united through marriage, they are spiritually ready for sex- the right way of giving love to each other and submitting to each other and not from the common lust and "I WANT" attitude of today's sex.
If you are meant to be united with someone, there has to be a spiritual bond between the both of you in spirit before the physical aspects. You have to both feel like a part of each other.
When you find the right person, they will be like your kindred spirit- and you will share the same values and deeper spiritual things together.
If your meant for someone in this life- you will be led to that person regardless of what part of the Country they are in.-- you will meet at the right time our Creator appoints for you.
You have to pray also. Between the prayers, dont be obsessed with finding a romantic partner, and use this time to helping others how God directs you.- Your prayers are appreciated as well... nidhi
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This is a reply to # 495,929"If your meant for someone in this life- you will be led to that person regardless of what part of the Country they are in.-- you will meet at the right time our Creator appoints for you." -- Boldyloxx
It sounds ideal, and I wish that I could believe that it was true. After what has happened in my life, I feel that it is possible to really mess things up. Waiting,... just waiting is hard, unless you know what you are waiting for, and when and if something will happen. I am not desperate for just ANY romance. After living in a loveless, toxic marriage for nine years, I am quite content to be peaceful and happy by myself, if that is how it was meant to be.
I just feel that I MUST KNOW whether anything was meant to happen with regards to that particular family, and whether there is anything in store for me along these lines at all. Once I know, waiting will be a lot easier, and I will be able to make much better use of my time. Meanwhile, yours, and all prayers are very much appreciated!
- Your prayers are appreciated as well... nidhi
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- Re: Thanks for your wishes! Boldyloxx
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- Thanks for your wishes! nidhi
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- Re: Life Insights nidhi
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- Re: Thank you -- more details -- And... createmagik
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This is a reply to # 495,904Dear One,
You are very welcome. I am happy to encourage you.
Please know that you are always dealing directly with the spiritual world. Your true self is experienced and can be completely trusted. We all share the inherent birthright of the higher self. You are on the path of undoing the blocks between you and recognizing who you truly are - a divine child - with no limits, other than those of your own mind.
In response to your love interest, ANYTHING, is possible. I do trust that you, like all of us create our own realities. What is it that you want? Who can you go to in your life that can help you take action? Use your imagination to create a plan. You can draw towards you ANYTHING that you desire, whatever you focus on. You are doing it now, only unconsciously...drawing toward you what you 'fear'... because that is where your mind is.
The very part of you that doubts whether it can trust, is the very part that is designed to be consciously aware. It is your conscious mind, and it is doing its job. Begin to understand that you are designed perfectly and the natural course of love and acceptance... and trust will unfold.
Much Love and Many Many Blessings of Light
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- Thank you -- more details -- Andreas... nidhi
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This is a reply to # 495,878Dear Nidhi,
The reason you were born into the family and culture that raised you was due to a great deal of guilt of having subdued others into submission and limitation. You were a man, a ruler who set the rules of living in a part of India now known as Pakistan. You asked to be born into a family that arranged marriages, leaving you with no choice. In truth, though it was your choice all along, for you had this need to balance out the shame and guilt of restricting other people's freedom. You have come a long way of liberating yourself from this self-inflicted pain, but there is opportunity for you to throw the shackles away altogether. Your future is not set in stone, only the probabilities are. You can choose which of the probabilities you want to manfiest in your physical life. There is no "supposed to" in life. You are in charge of your destiny, regardless whether it is fear and doubt creating what you are afraid of or doubt, or whether love and courage bring forth the realization of your greatest dreams. The society and family dogmas only restrict you as long as you let them. You can wait forever for someone to love you, if you don't tell someone that you love them. Life will bypass you if you bypass it. The universe reponds to you when you take that daring step of standing up for yourself, becoming worthy. By waiting around for something to happen, you remain trapped in the notion of being at the mercy of others, called victimhood. Forget about the rules that you have learned. The rules were made for those who didn't know themselves. Become a newborn who has no knowledge of what is right or wrong, and follow your feelings, your passion, your dreams, regardless what others want you to do. Your cultural doctrines are your opportunity to rise above your insecurities and take full responsibility for every aspect of your life, including your love life. Love is nothing to be ashamed of. Keeping it inside makes it shameful for you. Do what you are afraid of and you will lose the fear. THe purpose in all this is not to meet someone special who will love you, but to honor yourself and every desire you have, regardless what anyone says. It is about freeing your self from fear and loving yourself. Take risks, otherwise your life will remain uneventful and meaningless. It is all inside you, just take a few steps and it will happen for you.
Blessings,
Andreas- Thank you very much! nidhi
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This is a reply to # 495,942
Dear Andreas,
Thank you for taking the time to impart so much wisdom to me. It is definitely very different than the type of answer that I was expecting, and it may take some time for me to fully comprehend everything that you have told me, however, as I was reading your answer, it resonated within my entire being. I pray for the courage to throw the shackles off altogether, and stand up and do the things that I fear the most.
You are right, I am ashamed of the feelings I've had toward this person. I do not even call it love. I was taught from an early age that it is wrong and immoral to have such feelings, unless you are married to the person. I've come to realize that I was taught wrong, but the feelings of guilt and shame are still there. But as you've shown the light on it, I feel it dissipating.
Thank you again, for your wisdom, and for the work you do in love.
Most gratefully,
Nidhi- guilt is self judgement Wrenn
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- guilt is self judgement Wrenn
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- Thank you very much! nidhi
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- Re: Life Insights createmagik
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