Ah....the 'ole "I'm ending it all" ploy...

Yes, I remember very well how often my ex would threaten to kill me, the kids, and then himself (sometimes, in front of our children), and finish his threat by screaming, "You WANT me to do it, don't you?" The last time he did this was, again, in front of our children. I told the children to go out into the backyard and play for a few minutes. Since my ex kept a stinking arsenal of handguns and assault rifles, a gun was easy access. I calmly walked upstairs, retrieved his .357, brought it downstairs, placed one bullet in the chamber, pulled back the hammer, and offered the handgun to him, butt-first, so that the weapon was pointing at me. I then told him in a very quiet tone these words, "If you're going to shoot yourself, do it now. I've loaded the gun and cocked the hammer for you - all you have to do is point it at your head and pull the trigger. If you don't shoot yourself, right now, you are never to threaten me with suicide, again..." and I assured him that I would call the Police, mental health crisis lines, and any other agencies I could dream up if he ever did it, again. Shortly after that, I asked for a divorce. I would not, in retrospect, ever advocate that anyone else follow my foolish example - it is an example to merely demonstrate how insane NPD can make a person. I felt that I had had enough and that, if he chose to shoot me instead of himself, at least I would not be suffering any more abuse. AGAIN - I DO NOT ADVOCATE ATTEMPTING SUCH A STUNT TO ANYONE ELSE, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.

With an NPD, there is no "fair play." There is no compromise. There is no such thing as being heard. There is no safety. The NPD supply source is a matter of property, devoid of human value or concern. Healing from the abuse of an NPD takes years of hard work and severing ALL TIES with them, regardless of their pitiful cries or promises to "change." My philosophy is: I'll believe it when I see it. Children who are raised by an NPD parent either develop into an NPD or into the perfect victim.

An NPD has no empathy for the suffering or joys of another human being. If you have a broken leg, they suddenly have a headache that requires immediate attention. If you have earned a promotion, that achievement will be shot down as a minor event. In the world of NPD, it's all about ME - what makes ME feel better - what someone can do for ME - what's in it for ME. A very lonely, dark world, to be sure.