a question for long-timers

Ok, this is probably a totally stupid question, but I haven't been able to come up with a satisfactory answer yet.

I've read "scare stories" of becoming "dependent" on enemas, laxatives...I have no idea if that's possible or true. Stuff about the bowels forgetting how to, or losing the muscle tone to, do their peristalsis thing.

What disturbs me is that I keep on through the bowel cleansing...seems like years now...though not continuously. And yet, here I am again, a week after a larger Iodine push (which may have caused me to dump metals or something), plugged up again.

I just did one enema, around 2 qts., and I don't feel like that got it all (am on the 2nd day of no bowel movement...couldn't get around to doing something about it yesterday)...I felt nauseous at some point, things smelled awful, my insides felt terrible...the last thing that came out burned & looked like a million flakes of something...oh yeah, and I still suspect I have some sort of parasite infection, even if they are teeny tiny things. I feel better now...gonna do it again though.

I eat the same stuff as my husband, and his bowels are working just GREAT, multiple BMs a day, none of the problems I have. It's like his body has been in cleansing mode for a few years now, as he eats high-quality food we make at home.

My question is: should I stop feeling like I shouldn't have to use various methods to move things out and just do what I have to do (and not feel hesitant about it)? Is it ok to keep bowel cleansing for months? Years? What do you think?

I have so many methods at my disposal, and I try to switch them around...sea salt flushes, plain-water or tiny amount of Sea Salt -water enemas, colosan, lower bowel balance, psyllium, senna (I only use tiny amounts of that), triphala...and I try to do the most I can with my diet to encourage things...