Re: errrr... slightly inconsistent, there

That is not inconsistent, as I see it. It is just practical. One does not have to be so honest that they tell the complete truth at all times even if it hurts others or puts them at risk.

Telling a small lie is very different from having your entire life be one, which is what hers would be if she subjected herself to a forced marriage and lived a life as a fundamentalist Muslim, which is a belief system she does not concur with. Can you not see a difference here?

She said her family would disown her if she went with him, but they would hunt her down and kill her no matter what if she went with him and he did not convert, whereas if he converted they would at least leave them alone. So have him convert. Why not? He dosen't have to stop being Catholic, he just has to go through the motions. Since they would disown her anyway, it is a one time lie and not something she would have to keep up at "family gatherings", and it could spare her a lifetime of living in fear and constantly looking over her shoulder for a possible assassin.

There is a recent case here in CA where a Muslim/Hindu family dispute over religion ended with a house being burned down, two people murdered and burned beyond recognition and another critically beaten. This kind of hysterial threat over religion should not be taken lightly. Certainly the avoidance of such a possible horrific outcome is worth a white lie that keeps everyone happy.

Of course, I am assuming that these two people love each other and want to be together, (he did offer to convert and that shows a significant level of committment) and if so, I should add that she should disown them too, and move far enough away so that he does not get "caught" going to church....