Re: Changing....

I think we MUST choose, at least, the situations we allow ourselves to get into, including the feelings we allow ourselves.

But, 'allowing' may be a different function than we think it is.

It may be more of a relaxation of our own tensions, rather than a 'fighting stance'.

Anyone can get 'stuck' in any mindset, and not even know they are 'stuck' at all.

We who must leave their company could still wish them well.

I believe that those who do us emotional harm, when they could so easily have been our friend, were not so much 'evil' as they were just 'wrong'.

They did not know HOW to be better, or they would have done it.

I didn't see one person for thirty years, yet I held his hand for a few minutes while he was dying.

I swear to you, I felt no emotions, then or since. He was just an old man ending his life.

By realizing that he was just wrong, not 'bad' or 'mean' or any other negative thing, a measure of peace came into my heart, stronger than unhappy memories.

Unhappy memories are just echoes. And they do us no good, today. It is possible to let them go.

Anyone can be wrong, at any time. Goodness knows I have been wrong many times, and I thank my lucky stars I have been able to be right sometimes, too...even to correct some of my mistakes. And to finally wish wrong-doers well, at least in my thoughts.

Wrongs don't count for much, I think. While the times of right and wishing well glow and shine.

F.