Read previous posts - long time ago, but VERY prophetic

I just took the time to read back on some of your concerns - you're in a world of trouble, my dear, and it pains me to see any human being enter into a union with an abusive partner.

I cannot imagine maintaining separate living quarters (regardless of the excuse) from my spouse, much less accepting the obvious abusive treatment that you have chosen to. Prior to your entering into this ill-fated union by agreeing to a legally binding contract, you had plenty of encouragement to do what was best for your Self and, in particular, your daughters. The red flags were not only popping up, but they were on fire and you opted to ignore them for whatever reasons. If you are willing, I would suggest that you check out the Narcissist/Sociopath Forum here at curezone. The time for regrets and attempting to "fix" or involve this man in marital counseling ended with your signature on the prenupt.

If it were me, I would get into individual counseling, pack my stuff, and leave. The probability that your spouse is engaging in risky sexual activity during his "weekends" of racing and during time spent away from you - the LEAST of your concerns should be financial. I would be more concerned with contracting HIV/AIDS. Then, there's the abuse aspect - he is emotionally battering you, whether you want to believe it, or not. I got rid of my ex under similar circumstances and it was the best thing that I ever did for my Self and my children.

I would engage in individual therapy with a counselor that specializes in abuse, then I would hire a divorce attorney that also specializes in abuse.

Best wishes to you and your daughters - may you all find a healthy path. Tweet