Re: Is it ok to marry a man for financial security? Pre-nups

Yes Autumn, you are right. If it were only me, I wouldn't mind living in a dump. But I have to great teenagers to consider. I want my oldest to stay in College. And my fiance is not a bad guy, he is just difficult.
Monday he will go with me to a therapist. She knows about the "stupid" and the "bitch". I want him to talk. I hope she will help someway but I am not holding my breath because I am suspicious of the efficacy of therapy.

About the pre-nup: My fiance is a very smart guy when it comes to money and legal stuff. After all, he is a successful businessman. And I am very very naive when it comes to those things.

He has said something about wanting a pre-nup 3 times already, but time is running by. We are only less than 3 months from the wedding. He cannot present me a pre-nup in the last minutes because it is illegal to do so. I won't have time to go to a lawyer and negotiate a more fair deal.

Anyhow, his big purchases were made while single (his business, his bigger assets), so they will be his anyway in case of divorce. I think after marriage things we buy afterwards will be marital property, but I am not sure.

So I am not against a pre-nup totally-he wants to defend what he has, but if he wants one, I want to get a good lawyer and make sure he cannot dump me when I am 70 for a younger woman and leave me with nothing-not even a house to live. I don't think he would do that, he has morals, btu sometimes men go crazy after a young thing, right, especially if they have money..vide Donald Trump.

If he doesn't say anything about a pre-nup, I won't either. I am not sure I like the idea of having everything separate.



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