Yes, flowers. What a wonderful way to describe it. I had to cut out my whole narcissistic family out of my life and it has proven to be very helpful. I miss my nephews though.
It seems as if your Dad has something beyond NPD to be so extreme in his behavior.
I too do not feel sorry for myself nor wish others to feel that way for me. I see my life as a spiritual journey in that every situation is teaching me something.
You sound really healthy and strong. Life without Ns is so much better, yes?