Re: huh

Relax, want2 - I have a sneaking suspicion about posts that are similar to others that have anonymous ID's.

If someone is truly a victim, ranting and raving about the episodes is absolutely appropriate! We have to let that out in some manner, right? As we begin to heal, we realize that we can't generalize about one gender or the other.

And, your brief family history is all too common, honey - so many of us are raised to believe that violence and abuse is "normal." In my case, I chose someone who seemed to "need" me, and you know the rest of that tale.

I knew a couple of sisters that I grew up with. One of them was one of my best friends while I was growing up. But, there was always something odd about the relationship that she had with her father. Over the years, she succumbed to an organic mental disorder that caused her to be hospitalized and medicated. Of course, my perpetrator made sure that I had severed all ties with her (and, every other supportive individual that I had ever known), so I lost touch over the years. Well, by the time that we finally tracked one another down, she was insisting that she had been diagnosed with Mulitiple Personality Disorder, along with her sister. This diagnosis was delivered after she had "regressed" and learned that a neighbor's father (severe acloholic) had molested her and her sister.

Now, I observed this gal changing personalities in mid-sentence and it did not ring true, by any stretch of the imagination. More importantly, I believe that, if she had been molested, it was by her own father, not the playmate's father. I had never felt uncomfortable with that man, but I always, always, ALWAYS felt very uncomfortable around HER father, though he had never given me a reason to do so.

The whole point is this: abuse is not an unexpected situation in most families. There is no such thing as a "normal" family or "perfect" family. Dig a little deeper into those families that appear to have it all, and it will be quite likely that one will find someone who has issues - an aunt, a sister, uncle, father-in-law, etc. So, be at peace, want2, and don't allow anyone to push your buttons for the sake of reaction, which is what I believe this particular poster is attempting to do.

AND...keep posting, talking, and healing! You're a valued human being and allow NOBODY to tell you differently!