Re: Reject ignorance

You just don't seem to accept and/or respect boudaries, do you?  I asked that you not address me, personally, and you just cannot help yourself, can you?  I didn't post a single thing to include your ID# or a make a direct reference to your curezone.com ID, personally.  Your foolish quote is just one of many, many examples of blatant ignorance of the issues at the core of domestic violence and abuse, not to mention narcissism.  You asked for it on a personal basis, so here it is:

As for the red flags and warning signs, of course there were many!  However; I fell victim to an abusive narcissist who mirrored every good quality that I had, mirrored precisely those reactions that he had learned by observing other people.  He seemed so very charming and I fell for it, yes I did.  Did I allow myself to become a victim?  Yes, I did - so what?  I made a mistake and I've taken the steps to correct it, move on, and attempt to assist others who have fallen for the same ploys.  Who are you to judge?  Your life is in such good order that you are the judge and jury of the mistakes of other human beings?  Are those of us who have endured domestic violence and abuse supposed to feel badly for having made stupid choices just because you deem it so?

As for your opening paragraph:  "So SoulSurvivor, answer me this one thing, you say in your post you were terrified about your ex having guns and whatnot. I'm not undermining that. I am sorry for you that you went through that. I'm glad you are safe now. But didn't you notice warning signs before you got yourself hooked up with this individual?"  You're not undermining?  You're sorry?  You're glad?  But, what?  But, you feel it so important to attempt to create a feeling of shame and guilt for a past mistake for which I've already accepted responsibility and paid for?  Yes, you are undermining - you do not have empathy for emotional terror.  No, you are not sorry that any woman (your constant reference) suffers in a violent and abusive relationship - you're only sorry that we Survivors got out well enough to educate others on how to survive.  No, you are not glad, whatsoever - you abhor a strong, wise, intelligent female and can only alleviate yourself of your disdain by minimalizing an issue that you have no knowledge of, strictly judging by your judgemental and ranting posts.

Your insistance of bringing up past mistakes is similar to those people who find particular delight in dehumanizing and objectifying other human beings for the sake of their own bruised egos.  You are, indeed, utterly ignorant of the dynamics of domestic violence and abuse.  You are typing your opinions, to which you are entitled, but you are not basing your opinions on fact or experience.  There have been a number of websites posted for individuals to access in case they wish to educate themselves on an epidemic that isn't as clear-cut as you seem to feel it should be - obviously, you have not examined even a single one of those resources.  And, the words that you are typing are not an effort to assist, guide, help, or encourage.  The words that you are choosing to type, the manner in which you choose to address current victims and survivors reeks of arrogance, ego, and narcissism. 

As for me, personally, your opinions are worth nothing more than a fart in a windstorm and I will choose to never read another one of your ignorant, self-absorbed, arrogant posts which are an attempt to diminish the validity of these forums.  You either refuse to educate yourself about the dynamics of domestic violence and abuse, or you are an abusive narcissist, yourself.