Wow I'm new reading this forum site, quite the issue my dear. You can't stress about it, and your husband needs to be more supportive, you can never give up on the big "O". Get yourself in the mood and don't put pressure, take a warm bath in some nice smelling oils, then let him touch you for a while, and you let him know what feels good and soon your body will take over and let him know for you, do you feel yourself get wet and does your clit grow a little when you are excited and I guess my other question is do you ever just feel horny, I know certain times of the month are worse, like the week before my period is due I am an animal and I guess am so in the mood have an easier time during intercourse having and cllmax. I don't have any trouble with the "O", and I'm not a bearded lady, I have beautiful curves. Just don't go to the sack stressed, it's like people who are trying too hard to get pregnant it never happens and when they just relax forget about it and enjoy sex again boom they're pregnant and hopefully boom for you cllmax...Are you comfortable with your body? Do you look in the mirror and like what you see? Does your husband make you feel sexy? Sometimes it really is in your head what is holding you back. Love your body and explore it, and yes get on top and ride!!!