My daughter's abuse

I wrote a bit of my story on the Physical and Mental abuse forum, was just informed about this forum.

My daughter has been with a physically and I'm sure mentally abusive man for the last year. We found out about the abuse through a friend of her's that was worried about her. We live in Central America and she lives in the States, so it hard to see her and we don't hear from her for weeks at a time. She's a young adult, 24 years old, with a college degree. She's always been highly motivated, independent, smart, and never took s*** from anyone.

This relationship is really surprising to us. She's tried changing for him which is something she's never done for any other boyfriend. He's happy with the change (new hair style, make-up which she never wore before) then a few days later it's not good enough.

She recently got a court order to keep him away from her. Luckily, they don't live together. The day she broke up with him was the day she had him arrested and got the court order. Now she's thinking of going back with him. She says she knows he's a good person deep down but can't control his temper. In the same conversation she told me her relationship with him has been hell. Why go back to such an awful place when there's peace and joy away from him?

I would like any help in what to say to her or what to do that may encourage her to go back to being single. We have a close relationship and I don't want to distroy that, but I want help that I can use to help her. I'm really hoping to say the right thing. She always told me "moms are so smart" and I'm hoping that she'll keep that in mind. I've already told her she would be better off to let him go, never to see him again. I'm also trying to encourage her to move back to the city where our family is. She's still living in the city she went to college in that's a world away from family.

Any feedback and help will be appreciated.

Thank you and may all of you fine peace and happiness.