Re: what to do

17172: You are sweet, and I thank you for your kind words and affirmation.

It's a hard call, and a hard situation. But I must make a couple of points here.

#1
Having an abortion after having one child already, will be 50x harder than if you had no experience of child rearing.


#2
Why on earth is okay for a man to have multiple children with multiple partners and he can easily go on and find girlfriends and even a wife. However a woman is looked down upon when she is a single mother? Can anyone say double standard?

Listen if you find yourself in a hard situation, with an unplanned pregnancy and decide to keep that baby. Don't feel the least bit frightened about not being able find a mate later! Think for a minute. What does it say about the potential mate if they flee because of a child? It likely just means that you will weed out the creeps before getting tangled with them.

As well don't think you are "saving" your future children from hardship. If you have a baby, you are actually giving them a sibling, which is a gift. Sibling relationships, when nurtured are beautiful friendships! Then if you already have a child or children you are giving them a gift.

I'm pro choice too, but for good reason. Not for poor excuses.
You have to think for yourself, and when making a major decision like this one, don't go into it blind. You wouldn't buy a car with out checking out all your options.

Don't do anything to your body or life that can cause major problems with out checking out all your options.

Love,
Ev

P.S. If anyone needs more personal information or referrals please email me.
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