Re: what to do

Dear Friend - Thank you for sharing your story. You're obviously in a difficult situation, and one of the best things you could have done for yourself is to ask for help.
You feel betrayed. It's likely you hooked up with the wrong guy. And you feel totally unprepared for this. But having an abortion doesn't solve any of these problems. However it is that you got here, you are now here, and you have to take responsibility for your actions. I hope I don't sound cruel, but that's how it is. You are now the mother of two children, and regardless of this guy's present or former actions, that doesn't change.
Abortion tell people the lies that 'we can fix this little problem', 'don't let this mess up your life', 'it's just a blob of flesh - cut it out and move on'. Lies. That's just not true. Now is the time to be honest ... Honest with yourself about the decisions you've made, honest with God about your need for Him, honest with your male friend about the status of your relationship and honest with those around you about your pregnancy.
I'm sure you're dreading having to tell your family and friends. Most people will surprise you with their support and encouragement. A few people will judge and stigmatize you - those are the ones you likely need to part ways with.
You will never regret doing the right thing. Your second child is just as unique and wonderful as your first. You can tell both of your children you chose them and loved them before they even knew it. And made a huge sacrfice on their behalf before they were even aware of you. That is precious. And that is the foundation for a beautiful life together.
Just by your letter, I know that you're a woman of character. Please do the right thing. Feel free to email - I'd love to hear from you. Ray
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