perhaps someone has already said this, but i believe that it is imparative that she NOT leave and move out to that apartment- a marriage is through better and worse and if you both allow 'running away' to be an option when thigs are for the worse, then you have made divorce an option as well... life is hard, and dealing with the repocussions of our mistakes is extremely painful- we have to endure the consequences simply because we do- once you both go thru this, no matter how awkward or uncomfortable the process is, you will be stronger and more practiced as a team. she is your strength as you are hers- to run away from tough times is telling each other that your comfort is more important than she (he) is. please think about it. i speak from experience. once you run one time, each time after that becomes easier until you never come back at all.